I am a survivor of all forms of abuse started at age 5 followed me into adulthood, 2 abusive relationships to be exact. I have a husband who treats me very well. Our family dynamic is calm never violent. My daughter has been to several therapists which my husband and I participated in, has admitted to previous therapists she needs chaos to be happy. Apologies and promises out the wazzoo, good for 2-3 weeks, it is at that time you can feel the tension in the air within a week she has become explosive, Yes I have tried ignoring, it just makes it worse.
I feel I’m the only person in the world with this problem, It’s so isolating and lonely, the guilt, fear, anxiety that goes with being abused by your own child. I feel like the confusion is driving me crazy. How I see myself is opposite to the verbal and psychological abuse I suffer from my child. I am so hurt and feel like I want out…
My daughter is emotionally, mentally, physically, and verbally abusive towards me also with her stepdad and older siblings on a regular basis. Since October of 2011 she has assaulted me 5 times been arrested 3 times and placed in 6 behavioral facilities being discharged from the latest one January 7 of this year.
We have tried everything possible but nothing works. Since April 2011 she’s had 4 or 5 assault and battery charges, placed in six different facilities, discharged January 7th from the latest one. Barely home two months before she assaulted me on the 18th of February.
I’m constantly living in fear, terrified of being her punching-bag again or that she’ll carry out her threat of killing me, I’m refusing to be her punching bag which is why I told juvenile affairs I was not allowing her back into my home. Authorities then informed me if I intend to follow through by not letting her back into the house I could be charged with abandonment.
I have called lawyers, each one expressing how they would love to help me but since she is a minor, (her birthday isn’t until March 9 she will then be 17), I am legally responsible for her, her dad is refusing to let her live at his house for fear she will upset the home environment there and I honestly can’t blame him. Yesterday the sheriff presented me a subpoena. Court is on the 21 of March, I guess court will determine her outcome, I’m frantic she will come back to my house.
I have no idea what legal stand point I have, her hatred and cruelty is nonstop, we have supported her in every way possible but we’re told we never do anything for her. It’s not like a relationship where you can leave. It’s ridiculous! There is no respect and I don’t understand any of it.
My constant struggle not just daily, but hourly has become truly unbearable. My only escape is to lock myself in my bedroom.
I’m at the end and just can’t keep this awful throbbing and debilitating pain inside
It’s killing me I can physically feel myself dying inside…
How can I end this? There are safety nets plus programs out there for children, men and women who are being abused, but nothing out there that protects parents from their child abuser.
P.S. Thank you all in advance for your help