Opportunities aren’t around for every tomorrow.

I have such fond memories of my brother-in-law Clinton, who I had known for the last 20 years.  The very first time I met him, he made me laugh at my expense.

When my husband and I would come home on leave, we had drove for 18+ hours, though we were tired at night when everyone in the family would go to sleep, my brother-in-law, husband, my children and I would stay up ALL NIGHT and play his favorite games with him.

 He knew everything about anything, the pros and cons on every item or subject. He could transform any day into a magical story.  He had the gift of changing his voice into a variety of accents,  Yes, Clinton had a lot of great qualities, but perhaps his most endearing quality was his ability to get people to open up.  He made me feel comfortable enough to share my darkest secrets with him, and in addition to great advice, he gave me the confidence to choose the road less traveled and reminded me that no matter what, I will be okay.  I’ll always remember his advice.  He left a mark on every single person who met him. Unfortunately his life wasn’t long enough for us to see how far his excellence would have taken him.

My regrets are not being able to say goodbye, assuming he’d always be here, not spending more time with him & not being there when he died.

Clinton was very young, only 32 yrs old. He had always been a very healthy person, hardly ever even had a cold. He had been suffering with a bad headache for a few days before his death. He described it as a “killer” headache and commented that he was trying to keep his head from “exploding”.
On Sunday afternoon, a call of concern was placed, he was not answering his phone or his door and his vehicles were parked in the driveway and the door was locked. My sister-n-law went to his house to check on him and found him. He had been gone for about three days. We still do not know cause of death. But we are sure it had something to do with his headaches.

Life can change in the blink of an eye, the sooner we can all learn to live in the moment, and live our life in a way it was intended to be lived, one with purpose and one with love.  For now, do things that make you happy, love, give back, figure out your purpose, and enjoy the journey because the show must go on, I know Clinton would not have wanted it any other way.

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Never opened myself this way
Life is ours, we live it our way
All these words I don’t just say
And nothing else matters

Trust I seek and I find in you
Every day for us something new
Open mind for a different view
And nothing else matters

So close no matter how far
Couldn’t be much more from the heart
Forever trust in who we are
And nothing else matters

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Clinton Andrew Ellis

April 3, 1981 – January 2, 2014

“The smartest man I’ve ever met”

A cherished son, brother, Uncle and friend.

Forever in our hearts and always on our mind.

You will be dearly missed!!!

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In Loving Memory

  

Ellis’ Lady Liberty II 

AKA:  Libby Lou, Nana, Libbers, and Libs

    

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Our Libby has been gone a short while. Complications from diabetes took her from us too soon. Libby was not only our dog, but our friend. We were her forever home.  From the beginning she brought smiles to many faces and warmed the hearts of those around her. From her morning kisses to her comforting us all when we were sick or injured – she was there. She had the sweetest disposition, loved to have her belly rubbed, and to give kisses.She followed me, my husband Brian, and our children everywhere. She loved to run…and run she did, all over the beaches. She loved to sun herself. She loved to go bye-bye in the car, and to go to the lake. She loved to be loved. She was my buddy, my child, and she will always have a piece of my heart. I will miss her kisses and her unending head nudges for pets.

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Dearest  Libby,

What a wonderful journey our lives have been with you in it. You were the best dog in the whole world. You were our best friend. You listened without judging and always had a gentle kiss. You always had a welcoming look with the kindest heart and the gentlest soul.

You were beautiful, loving, smart, memorable, and eager to learn. I happily taught you basic commands as well as silent hand commands, within days you were eagerly demonstrating each command with ease. You were there for 2 children Daddy and me. Instinctively you started guarding me automatically becoming our protector. You never wavered in your love, loyalty,

935743_10201004832386071_1722352856_nor friendship to our family. Your loyalty did not end with us, while encountering unfamiliar individuals you kept a watchful eye on every person, guarding Daddy, Me, Tiffany & Michael James.

You provided calmness, endless security, comfort and lovingness. You were such a good protector and friend. Everyone loved you. You were brilliant, you were perfect!! You played hard; whether you were chasing squirrels, boats, barking at planes, playing in the snow or walking/running the beach; you LOVED every minute of it. You became a devoted mom twice, your puppies were not only ginormous but also beautiful.

We went through so much together. There was a gentle spirit about you, so much so, that all who met you loved you! I am so thankful that we were blessed to share life with you. It is so difficult to go through the days without you. You have taught us so many great lessons that we will carry with us forever

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Although you could not stay, it makes me happy knowing you’re no longer suffering. I am amazed when I think of how blessed our family has been to have had you in it. No one can tell me a dog isn’t family. You were our family.

Our family was better because YOU WERE A PART OF IT. You are dearly missed and truly loved by all of us! We will always keep you close to our hearts forever dearest beloved. Jesus created all living things; you were a wonderful creation. ❤

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My heart tells me you want us to begin again, watch after and care for another dog just as we did for you.

In simple terms give a dog a chance in life as we all did for you. We will love again in your honor.

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A Loving Good-Bye

It is difficult to lose someone you are close to. At times when we are faced with such a tragic loss, everything that we can encounter within the time this has occurred tends to be magnified and intensified.

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Shortly after the holidays we found out my former sister in law (Linda, all nieces and nephews called her Nanny or Nana.) had a heart attack and stroke, after recovering enough she was sent home where she was able to, with some assistance, take care of herself, her doctors said it was just a matter of time they just didn’t know how much time she had left. Linda had diabetes which was the contributing factor to her poor health. She was 46 years young, the second youngest of four. I didn’t really follow on what was going on with her, but for some reason, as cynical as I am about other people; my natural reaction to these sorts of issues is “That sucks, but things will turn out alright”.

When I tried to pray, I couldn’t find the words. How do you pray when someone is about to die? That God miraculously heal them? That’s not how it works. Or maybe I don’t have the appropriate faith to “walk on water”, so to speak, and make it happen. So instead I prayed that her family and friends be prepared for the worst.

Young one had a special bond with Nanny, as did all the children, as a person her traits were similar to Mother Teresa. Saturday evening as my youngest daughter was getting ready for bed she had written a good-bye letter to her nanny, she had a feeling is all she said.

Dear Nanny,                                                                               February 2, 2013

I love you! And I miss you so much! I haven’t heard on how you’re doing in about a month, so hopefully you’re doing decent.

I’m writing this “letter” because I have a feeling that you’re not physically with us any more…Hopefully none of that is true; but, if it makes you feel no pain, Go for it. I just need to say a few things… before you go…

What if you’re with Jesus? What if you’re not here and I can’t say goodbye? Would you still know that I love you?! If you’re with Jesus will you tell Grandpa Lally that even though I’ve never met him, and have no idea what he looks like; that I still love him. Nanny, will you please watch over everyone; they need you. Nana you were ALWAYS there for me… Even when you didn’t want to be a part of it! You took care of everyone, even if they didn’t deserve it. You didn’t even have to know them to help support them. I admire you SO much! Nana, if you’re in heaven will you tell me somehow that you’re there and you’re okay? What am I going to do?! I will never forget you! Thank you for all you have guided me through, supported me through those rough patches I call my life… Just, thank you for everything!

I Love You Nana!!

I wondered what we’d do if Linda died before young one got to see her. Well, she did. She went to bed Saturday evening never to awake on Sunday, February 3 just four days shy of her 47th birthday and yet when I heard the news…well, I don’t know what I felt. I wasn’t surprised. The best way to describe my thoughts was that I felt inconvenienced that ‘young one’ couldn’t see her one last time.

I loved and still love my sister in law (former or not she is still dear to me). I remember her to be one of the few people I could talk to without feeling patronized (and truthfully, nothing changed after I left her brother).

I love Nanny. I believe she is in Heaven, learning all the answers to questions we never asked, witnessing the dinosaurs and how they died, learning the creation of the universe and getting to know my God. I know this cannot bring her back; I wanted to do something for my children’s pain. God has her now, she is pain free.

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      Your Aunt (Nanny)

 Your Angel

You look back on memories you forgot you had,

And at times you’ll smile even though it hurts so bad.

Your nanny is a special woman and no one can take her place,

You’ll find a piece of mind when you remember her smiling face.

Your nanny is an angel now she flies high above the rest,

And in your hearts always and forever she will be the best.

She has earned her wings and it’s time for her to fly,

I know it hurts as no one is ever ready to say good-bye.

She knows you do not understand and that you cry at night,

But as you finally drift off to sleep let her memory hold you tight.

She will be your guardian angel through the rest of your life,

Helping lead you on the path between what’s wrong and right.

Nanny loves you very much and her love will remain forever true,

Please don’t ever think for a second that nanny will forget you.

She has taken memories with her as she’s flown away,

Up to Heaven, free of pain, this is her new home to stay.

So although you cannot see her and you wish she could be there,

Nanny can always hear you and nanny will always care.

She is so proud of her family and that’s in her heart to stay,

Even though she’s an angel and has had to fly away.

So as you cry your tears remember your nanny’s love,

Being sent to you from her, from the beautiful Heaven above.

She will be there through your good times; she will

 be there through your bad,

She’ll be there when you are happy; she’ll be there when you’re sad.

   Your nanny has become and angel now, it is her time to fly,

And you will never know how bad it hurt me to watch you have to say good-bye.            

                                     

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                                                     February 7, 1966 February 3, 2013

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